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Six-Months-To-Doctor:-How-to-Complete-a-Dissertation-in-Six-Months

DrJudiC — Fri, 26 Mar 2010 00:46:58 +0000

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Your Ph.D. dissertation doesn’t have to be Pretty Hard & Difficult – 4

DrJudiC — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 17:29:59 +0000

Did you know that many doctoral candidates can spend more time fixing, revising, or editing their dissertations than they do working on the research and writing? I always wondered what that was about. What I discovered was that by communicating clearly with the members of your committee, you can get a clear idea of their expectations and meet them the first time around. You will still have editing to do, but you can limit the number of times your submissions are kicked back. That’s what I did and it worked very well for me.
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Your Ph.D. dissertation doesn’t have to be Pretty Hard & Difficult – 3

DrJudiC — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 03:33:04 +0000

If you were to conduct a Google search, you are bound to find countless listings for services offering dissertation assistance. Many students have successfully used these services. Once of the main things that we can learn from this new trend is that you don’t have to work on your dissertation.

While many people are comfortable hiring someone to help them do some of the work, it is more difficult to reach out to others and “I need your help”. During the time you are working on a dissertation, having a supportive network is one of the most important things you need in place. It’s not just having people who are there to cheer you on, you need to also have people whom you can c all on for help. Of-course you have to be able and willing to reach out and ask them to help you. Having a string network will not just save you frustration, this can save a lot of time as well.

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Your Ph.D. dissertation doesn’t have to be Pretty Hard & Difficult – 2

DrJudiC — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 04:18:19 +0000

When you think of dissertation, many people think of this ginormous project with bells and whistles. It is expected to be this major accomplishment and doctoral candidates expect that it would be grueling. It is indeed all those things. Completing a dissertation is a triumph, and I believe that anyone who makes it through should be very proud. Somewhere along the years, we got it in our minds that a dissertation had to be extra hard. It doesn’t. The dissertation in itself is a great achievement. It is indeed going to require much original work that only the candidate can do. There are resources that are available that can help the process go smoothly. It takes more time to fix something than to do it right the first time. When working on your dissertation, get a lot of help to do every part right the first time. Many student spend more time revising than they do writing their dissertations. There are many people who are available and willing to help you. I don’t mean an online service you buy either. People on your campus and in your life who want to help you get your degree. You just need to know how to benefit from that.

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Taking Pretty Hard & Difficult out of your PhD dissertation 1

DrJudiC — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 02:02:44 +0000

The dissertation is the reason many doctorate students spend too much time s doctoral candidates or ABDs. Suddenly free of deadlines and due dates, many students find the “freedom” overwhelming. The lack of structure often makes it more difficult for candidates to set and follow in a specific direction. When faced with freedom and temptation from every direction on how to occupy this “free time” it’s very easy to get side tracked. If you can set and stick with a schedule, then you can give yourself a serious edge. With my clients I recommend keeping the schedule they had during classes. It’s already an established and dedicatee tome for school work. Stay tuned to my website for more tips… www.DrJudiC.com Feel free to ask questions.

Football, Basketball, Baseball – Gelling The Team For More W’s

DrJudiC — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 21:28:02 +0000

As coaching continues to grow, more and more individuals are taking advantage of the opportunities it affords them. Many companies have greatly invested in coaching for their executives and in some cases other non-management teams. One of the benefits of coaching is that it helps the individual get beyond his personal hindrances and move towards excellence.
Many athletes in non-team sports have taken advantage of coaching to help improve their games. Unfortunately I don’t have confirmation thus cannot name a few beyond one of the Williams sisters who appeared in a Tony Robins infomercial. Recently I began working with an athlete who was a member of a team. This very talented individual definitely understands the game and has been able to demonstrate his physical and mental prowess in this are. His concern was that he felt that there was another level that he could be at, but was just not reaching. While he reported feeling this way for a while, he did not decide to take action until this feeling threatened his confidence.
During the weeks that we worked together, he began to identify the barriers that have been affecting his ability to “reach the next level”. He was able to explore the many things going on in and away from the game that were affecting his state of mind when he was playing as well as when he was not. As he reported, those were either not issues or they were at best issues that were “handled”. Many of us have these underlying things which we believe are non-issues and on the surface appear not to be causing any problems, but somewhere closer the core we find the deeply rooted behaviors, thoughts and attitudes that have resulted.
In our sessions we began address each of these “non-issues” until we reached a point where he felt comfortable that he was moving towards his goal. We both felt that he made some major breakthroughs. As a coach my goal is that my clients make changes that have more permanent impact, and learn skills that they will be able to tap into long after they have moved on from coaching. That is one reason I draw on my training as a mental health professional and experience with cognitive behavior therapy.
We had reached the point when we began discussing termination, but my client recognized the systems impact coaching could have. Instead of preparing to end his sessions, he decided to work on plan to get another member of his team to participate in coaching with him. This was an important step for my client because of several reason; one of which was that his rapport with that particular individual could significantly elevate the performance of both in the game. Another issue was how to get pass both of them being these big macho men, to one of them convincing the other to join him in participating in life coaching. The issue is still sensitive and inviting someone to join you in coaching is absolute a far world apart from inviting a couple of guys out for a beer.
When these two men began work on the team aspect of their coaching I began to notice the differences between the individuals and the similarities that strengthened between the teammates. As individuals they each had their own personal issues to work though, but as teammates they shared numerous common goals. The two learned to communicate with each other in a manner that facilitated their ability to not just notice what the other was doing, but also anticipate and interpret each other’s intent based on some key behaviors. Part of their learning included being able to express their expectations of the other and receive feedback; but as they completed these steps the two individuals became a unit within the team. The developed the type of bond that allowed them to consistently perform better even when the rest of their team was not performing as well.
Watching their game films became a new exercise as the three of us were able to discuss the clarity of certain nonverbal cues as well as when the team, having gelled so well could understand what was not said. At the start the two were individuals on the same team. After participating in a number of team coaching sessions, they have really become teammates, with a goal help their team as a whole arrive to where they are – on the road to surpassing excellence.
As a therapist I sought to involve the clients’ family and other significant people in their lives in their treatment. As coach, I still find that there is a great value in involving others in the client’s life to help them work toward their goals. After working with these two clients, I began to evaluate to benefits of this service to athletic teams. I found that similar to business teams; athletic teams that have greater rapport also tend to have better productivity. Whether on a field, on a court or in a boardroom, the ability to communicate is of utmost importance. Each member of the team’s ability to share and receive information from the other members has a potential to significantly impact the entire team’s performance. Therefore, just as businesses have brought in professionals to help with team-building and athletic teams would also benefit from availing themselves of these services.

How to boost a man’s self-esteem

DrJudiC — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 16:10:47 +0000

Men’s sense of self is more often tied to abilities, they are more into what they can do. Whereas a woman can get a quick boost from a personal compliment, for a man, a compliment about a skill or talent is likely to lead to that same boost quicker. Please don’t mistake this to mean that men are not in tune with their inner selves, because many of them are. Many men have gone through the process of exploring the depth of their souls and come to appreciate who they are greatly. For those men, being able to see, appreciate and acknowledge that inner peace and confidence in him can go a long way. Of-course that would in most cases require knowing this person on deeper level and taking time to see those innermost qualities.
There are a few on the surface things that can help. Making a man feel needed is on that is often a sure fire way to get there. Unfortunately, today’s independent women have been chipping away at this little tool. You pay your own bills, can change your own tires or call AAA, and you will hire someone to mow the lawn on the house that you bought. Every now and again, though it would not be so bad to let him help with some of the manly stuff, like the car or something with the house. You know you could take care of it, but it’s nice to have him do it for you and he relieves you of the pressure or responsibility of having to handle it. One less thing to worry about.
This brings me to my next point. When a man does something for you, whether it is because you could not do it or because you allowed him to help, be appreciative. People want to help, but no one wants to feel unappreciated. No matter how little or how big the deed, it’s important that he knows that his efforts are appreciated. Otherwise he has no incentive to want to help again, and you will both be denying him the opportunity to step up and do more of these things that should make him feel great.
Rewards are great at any age. The last thing I asked of a man, was to come tighten the lug nuts after I changed a tire. Do you think after he came to do this in the middle of his workday that I planned something special for him? You better believe it! He needs to know that he is appreciated. Sincerely telling him is one ay, but it’s also nice to do things for him as well. And this does not mean going all out. It could be as simple as a special dinner that is planned with his preferences in mind. This is simple enough that it could be done for a friend or your man.
Treating a man special is something that is too often overlooked but is such a great tool. Many men will say that this is not their thing, but a spa day is such a great gift. The massage, the facial, the mani/pedi can all be tailored for the manly man (in my immaturity – I still laugh at the clear polish on the nails though). In today’s tougher economic time, it may not be as easy to afford the day at the spa, but providing all the services for him at home may work just as well.
Game day preparations are also a big hit for the sports aficionado. Whether you get everything ready and leave after you get his boys to come over, or it’s a party for two (if you’re WATCHING the game too); when you plan it with him in mind he will feel it.
Taking him to the game is one that can work with your man or any other male in your life. A day about him, where he is picked up (you do the driving no matter how far) and you take care of everything until you drop him home. When you go through the trouble of making a day about someone, that says “I think you are important”, and it validates this person’s place in your life. He will also be thinking “I must really be important for someone to go through all the trouble of planning a day for me”, and that will have a positive impact on his views of self as well. Everyone wants to feel that they matter.
Looks are important too. Just as a woman likes to hear that she’s beautiful when she gets all dolled up, and man will enjoy that too. Men also put forth the effort to smell nice, so when he does smell nice that should also be complimented. Smiles, teeth, eyes and whatever else comes up are also good targets for compliments as well. The catch to making the most impact with a compliment is to lead with it. When a person compliments you first, there is that rule of politeness that you feel the need to return it. No matter how genuine the returned compliment, sometimes it can feel less than heartfelt or you run the risk of the person thinking that you were just returning their compliment. When you lead with a compliment, there is not as much wiggle room for the interpretation of your intent – It’s a compliment.
During the harder times, things get a little tricky. For instance, in these economic times when there are many men who are unemployed. If yours is one of them it’ll be hard on both of you. To start, you may need a book of affirmations (I’m only partly joking with this one). If your man is at that stage he may need you now more than ever, because when he doubts, he needs you to believe in him. He needs to know that you are behind him no matter what. These are the times for the SILENT sacrifices; when you have to pass on something you want, and not complain about it. This is when you don’t go to the concert and plan a nice romantic evening at home instead. It will be hard to work the extra hours and then come home to look over his new cover letter, but your devotion will motivate him to keep trying.
It is true that actions do speak louder than words, but words can also be very powerful. As a therapist, when working with children who were aggressive and getting into fights, I remember teaching them this statement “hands are for helping, not for hurting”. They would memorize it and eventually we got to where they would say it either out loud or just think it when they were angry and wanted to hit someone. This technique took time but once mastered had a good success rate. Adults do get into the physical altercations as much but they can be hurtful with their words. Sometimes it is out of anger or just a purely unintentional slip, but once the words are out they cannot be put back in. The best measure is place a filter between the thought and the verbalization.
Try this exercise that can be used with anyone in your life. When you get ready to say something take a moment to evaluate the potential impact of the words you are going to say. As you do this you will remind yourself “words are for helping, not for hurting”. If you find that the words you were ready to utter are not going to help the person, take a second to find a more positive response before you speak. Use words to empower him. The intent should always be to build him back up, not bring him further down.

Five things you can do:
1. Tell him you believe in him.
2. Show and tell him that he is appreciated.
3. Acknowledge his successes.
4. Wish him well when he’s down, if you pray tell him you pray for him.
5. Remind him how great he is.

I’m just saying though…

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